Rules or Relationship?
Samuel:
When a person travels from one place to another, he will
probably have a very definite goal in mind. This is true whether he is taking a
flight, road trip, bicycle tour, hike, trek, or jaunt. If he has never been to
his destination before, he will take extreme care to be sure that he is
traveling the right way. He checks his route often because of time and money
spent on the venture.
Life here on earth is like one big journey. No person has
ever been to his final destination before. Nobody really wants to get to the
end of his journey and be surprised at what he finds there!
If a man sets his goals too low, he will train himself to be
satisfied with less. This person will never reach his greatest potential. A
right objective leads a person in the right direction. Goals must be set and
performance constantly evaluated to keep a person heading the right way. Just a
slight alteration in his course could lead a person miles apart from where he
really wants to be.
All that to say that we have goals as Christians. We have a destination.
A Christian's primary goal is to develop Christ-like
character. No low goals here! As Jesus himself said in Luke 6:40, “...every one
that is perfect shall be as his master.” Our lives should be governed by
looking unto Jesus (Hebrews 12:2).
How would Christ react to things going on
in our world today? Well, there are no set of rules that can contain the person of
Jesus Christ. A Christian must have proper standards built on the principles of
God's word, but personal convictions are just that – personal. Each person must
develop his own stance on modern issues, cultural questions, and anything else
not written in black and white in the pages of the Bible.
The problem? Well, it arises when
an individual tries to impose his personal convictions on other Christians by
disguising them as the commandments of God.
Can two believers have a different
opinion on entertainment such as books, television, movies, games, etc.? Sure.
The Bible does not always give clear boundaries on what is right or wrong in these
areas. What about sports? Social media? Modern transportation? This might include questions on dress, dating/courting, music, etc.
Sometimes the
Bible gives limited instruction in a certain area, and it is a great temptation
for us to “fill in the blanks” when teaching others. Because scripture is silent on many of
these things, it is very easy to teach our own thoughts and experience even to
the point of placing these in a position equal with the Word of God.
But wait. God
doesn't need us to put words in His mouth or help Him in writing an eleventh
commandment!
An individual with a higher standard in a particular area is
not “more spiritual” than a person with a lower standard. Christ-likeness is
our goal. Personal standards are not an end in themselves; they are to help us
become more like Christ. But for feeble mankind, following a list of rules is
much easier than maintaining a close relationship with God. It is easier to
have a quick answer than to beg God on your knees for His light and discernment
about a situation. It is easier to rely on our own intellect than to try to
know and understand the mind of God.
Alicia
I love the BBC mini-series Cranford. One of my favorite scenes involves Miss Deborah faced with a tough decision. It was considered scandalous for ladies to follow a funeral cart on its way to the burial ground; however, there was no male relative to follow the cart and pay final respects to the deceased. Following the cart certainly wasn't against the Bible--it was just a man-made rule. Miss Deborah gave the matter much prayer. In the end, she decided God wanted her to follow the cart because it was the right thing to do--even though it was against the cultural expectations of the day.
To me, that is a perfect example of someone who knew the man-made rules, but felt that they were not right for that particular situation. She could have put her foot down and refused to be respectful to the dead because of what people would think. She could have followed tradition. Instead, she sought God's will and did what she thought to be proper in those circumstances in a humble, dignified manner.
I love that.
Samuel
So, how is your direction? Are you following Christ? Is your
objective to be like Him?
Alicia
It is way too easy to follow a set of rules, especially when they are what everybody else is doing. You know, tradition? Man-made expectations? But how often are we more concerned about what people think than what God wants and the Bible actually says?
Samuel
Is your
goal to look good to others? Is it perfect adherence to a list of rules that
you think makes you a good Christian? Will you end up in the joys of
Christ-likeness or the hypocritical poverty of self-righteousness?
Together, we all should prayerfully consider what it means to be Christ-like, not self-righteous. After all, the key to holiness is first love. Our foundation to all men knowing that we are Christ's disciples is our love for Him and others.